I love watching series from South Korea, and one thing that I find most fascinating about them, is how accurate they tend to be when compared to daily life. I am also intrigued by their cultural sayings, which I have found to have a lot of wisdom. “Bad luck comes in threes” is a common saying around the world, but I was watching a Korean series that continued that saying with “…and so does good luck. Because for every pain, there is joy accompanying”.
I think I can confidently say that the whole world has had a long year and that many of us are barely holding our heads up the water. In such times, it’s easy to lose hope, to forget your dreams, and to lose yourself in pain and hopelessness. It is only human to react that way, and do not feel compelled to be the proverbial ‘strong person’ who sheds no tear nor talks not of their pain. Unfortunately, we live in a culture that glorifies denying one’s suffering and feeling in the guise of appearing strong. From when we are young, we are taught that emotions make you weak and that we should always do our best to shun them.
I grew up doing just that, and after years and years of rejecting or ignoring my emotions, I developed functional neurological disorder, “Functional neurological disorder (FND) is a medical condition in which there is a problem with the functioning of the nervous system and how the brain and body sends and/or receives signals…” ( https://rarediseases.org/rare-diseases/fnd/ ) As part of my treatment, I have to see a psychologist, a neurologist and a neuropsychiatrist. In one of many consultations with the psychologist, he helped me understand that emotions are there to give our minds and body a sign of something going right, or wrong. For example, if you have friends whom you meet and come back home feeling happy, you know that those are good people to be around. But if you meet a person or people and after you leave you are clouded by self-doubt, guilt etc., then that is a cue to avoid spending too much time with those people.
I guess what I am trying to put across is that as we go through hard times, which sometimes seem to never end, allow yourself to hurt. Allow yourself to feel sad, overwhelmed, and tired. More so, allow yourself to say that it is too much for you to bear, and by doing so, you will unburden your heart and soul. Then, you might get a chance to look at the problem from a different perspective. Feeling pain and feeling defeated is not giving up. It is only a sign to let go of trying to solve life’s mysteries for a moment and allow it to unfold.
“Whether it is clear to you or not, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should… With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world”